A Christian Husband Should Have Self-Control
If
a husband cannot keep himself from looking, touching, or bedding
another woman other than his wife then he most likely is doing something
wrong in his walk with Jesus. It seems that his relationship with God
is faltering somewhere. The attitude of lust and desire outside the
bounds of marriage always hurts everyone involved. Why put your self and
family through such pain?
If a Christian husband is having
difficulties with ridding himself of wrong desires then he needs to pray
about it and ask that God help Him to turn away from immoral desires
and to only have eyes for his wife. Scripture lets us know that only
those people who truly belong to Jesus and who have denied self have given up the sinful nature with its passions and desires. (Galatians 5:24)
"For
the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men. It
teaches us to say "No" to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live
self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age. (Titus
2:11-12)
A Christian Husband Should be Considerate of His Wife
"Husbands in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives." (1 Peter 3:7)
This
means for a Christian husband to be understanding, caring and selfless,
putting his wife's well-being above his own. Understand that this is the way
God wants a husband to love his wife. Scripture dictates that the only
way a husband would be able to put his wife before himself is to have a
right relationship with Jesus Christ.
Treat Her With Respect as the Weaker Partner (vessel)
And
treat her with respect as the weaker partner and as heir with you of
the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. (1
Peter 3:8)
"Weaker partner" does not mean moral or intellectual
ability but physically weaker. As we all know women are more vulnerable
to criminal and sexual abuse and a husband should be protecting her in
that regard. In what ways can you protect your wife from these kinds of
abuses? Husbands should respect the fact that their wives are physically
weaker and protect them from all outside influences.
If your wife
rebels against this protection then explain to her, with scripture in
hand, that it is your Christian duty to protect her from mistreatment in
the world. Let her know that this is one way in which you show your
love for her. No woman in her right mind would resist such love and
spiritual understanding.
In Ephesians 5:26 husbands are to wash
their wives with the word, cleansing her and making her holy. Show your
wife spiritual wisdom and discernment through your love for her. This is
what being "head of the wife" means. The husband first must be a man of
God before he can cleanse his wife with the word.
Continue to be
wise in the Lord and wash your wife with the word, making her holy as
Christ's church. Christ's death sanctified and cleanses the church and
it is God's word that cleanses us. (John 17:17)
"...So that nothing will hinder your prayers". (1 Peter 3:8)
Have
you ever wondered why your prayers never seem to get answered? Do you
pray and pray and nothing changes? It could mean that you are hindering
your prayers because your relationship is not right with God. If a
husband is not considerate and respectful of his wife, perhaps his
prayers will be hindered. I mean this is what scripture says, plain and
simple.
In Matthew 5:23-24 it lets us know that if you have a
problem with a fellow believer (spouse) that you are to resolve the
problem BEFORE coming together in prayer. God is not going to resolve
your problems with your wife for you. You need to resolve your problems
with your wife first and then go to God with your prayers.
The
bottom line is if a husband uses his headship position as a means to
mistreat his wife, then his relationship with God will suffer and
consequently his prayers will go unanswered. Our attitude towards others
reflects our relationship with Christ.
(1 John 4:20)
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