Marriage is certainly a man made institution. It is a requirement
in a civilized society to identify the family and the children. It is
also a solution for sexual satisfaction. Thus the marriage customs that
identify a couple as one are there in all religions. It follows that
Hinduism, Christianity, Islam or for that matter any other religion all
have a ritual that has to be undergone to be classified as married.
But
in any society there is always interaction between the opposite sexes
and even if you are married this interaction and contact will always be
there. In addition man is by nature not monogamous and as such there is
every chance that a man though married could be attracted to another
woman.
This attraction could be at your place of work where a
colleague may attract you or someone in your neighborhood. Generally
this attraction builds up over a period of time. Social Scientists have
concluded that this attraction is in some cases inevitable as hours of
work together with an opposite sex partner could lead to what we term an
affair.
An affair is something like a liaison with another man or
woman that could lead to sex. The reasons are myriad- a woman could be
unhappy in her marriage or simply a man may be attracted to a colleague.
What must be understood is that this attraction is natural and builds
up over a period of time.
Having said this, it must also be
understood that the protagonists of a love affair must keep their wits
about themselves. They must understand that their affair if it goes
deeper is likely to cause anguish to their partners. Not only can this
result in break up of a marriage but in all likelihood will also cause
anguish to the man and woman involved in an affair with each other.
What
is the solution? Affairs are fairly common, but the participants must
understand that the end result will perhaps be anguish and more anguish.
Though one need not take a lesson from religion and condemn an affair,
the fact is an affair can if prolonged create more problems than it
solves.
In case you have had an affair the best course is to get
it out of your system and concentrate on something positive like your
children.That should not be difficult. Lastly do not make any
confessions to your partner of any affair. Remember if a mirror cracks
it cannot be ever repaired.
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